I’m Dr. Ari Brown and I’m going to explain
what it means to be an authoritative or positive parents. This approach is kind of like running
a democracy, except mom and dad have the final say. Positive parents value mutual respect.
They respond to their child’s needs and they’re very nurturing. But they expect their child
to respect them, talk to them and follow directions and rules. Positive parents are good listeners.
They encourage cooperation by hearing what their child has to say. A positive parent
might say, “I understand how you feel. Let’s figure out a way to make this work and we’ll
both be happy.” Positive parents are consistent and fair. They set up rules and boundaries
and then they stick to them because they believe that placing appropriate demands on a child
fosters independence and self control. Positive parents use non-physical discipline strategies.
They turn a child’s mistake into a teaching moment where a child learns a logical consequence
for his error. They do not believe in spanking. Numerous studies have shown that kids who
grow up in a positive parenting household are generally pretty happy people with high
self-esteem. They’re good at taking personal responsibility, keeping their emotions in
check and getting along with others. This parenting style is a balance of setting reasonable
expectations in a nurturing and loving way.