Anatomy and Physiology of Orgasm: (6 of 9) Why do some women struggle-

Anatomy and Physiology of Orgasm: (6 of 9) Why do some women struggle-


(Instructor) Okay, so my question for you
is to now talk to your neighbor for a second. Why do you think some woman struggle to have
orgasm. Like most people don’t talk about it being super difficult, although it can
be, but not in general when you look at a population we don’t talk about, you know,
difficulty with a man having orgasm, but we do sometimes talk about difficulty with a
female having orgasm. Let’s talk to your neighbor and see if you can come up one or two reasons
why that might be the case. Does someone have an idea to share? I saw Katie was just about
like this, right? It’s all mental, so there are actually sides behind the all mental thing,
right? So we’ll get there in a second, but there are parts of your brain that when they
have done actual studies to look at what areas of your brain light up, there are areas of
your brain that need to quiet down and then if those areas don’t quiet down, they do not
see people leading to arousal or orgasm. So when we say like it’s all in their head, no-no,
its their brain not shutting down in the areas that it should, right? Now I can….as a woman
with a child and a busy career and what not, I can come up easily with reasons why my brain
doesn’t want to just shut off all of sudden magically, so it’s a good idea to help somebody
get to the place where there brain is ready to shut down, but there is reason for that.
There is actual science behind it, so again, I will get there in a second. Does anyone
else have another idea why, that might have more to do with the physical anatomy or something
like that? Someone have an idea? Yes. (Student) It’s got all like all the nerve
endings, I mean sure they’re all located on the clit, but there is also the spread of
everywhere. Ever seen that gig image that was on the internet where it’s all these knobs
and dials with women underneath it and then an on/off switch for men? (Instructor) For men, yes. (Student) I have. So I think that maybe for
some men, it is really easy to get fed up with how much goes into figuring it out initially,
so that then it happens. (Instructor) That’s a really great way to
describe that, and I’m not sure if everyone heard about the image that has gone around
that has one scene where its got like the box with like all the dials and everything
and that is women, and then there is the man that’s like, on/off- done. But that meaning
does take a little bit of learning. It does take a little bit of figuring out, well where
are these sensations coming from and why and how do I even feel about that. And actually
that leads me to where I was semi going with my first thought here. Masters & Johnson is
one of the groups that spent a lot of time, if you’ve read the book Mary Roach’s book,
Bonk. She uses their information quite a bit but this is back even in 1966. So here, “In
direct manipulation of the clitoris”, they always talk very sciency, “In direct manipulation
of the clitoris there is a narrow margin between stimulation and irritation, right? Meaning
that that area, that gland, especially if someone has really never learned any other
part of the anatomy, that in some ways this one teeny area has a lot of nerve endings
and, therefore, it can go in the wrong direction, as in there is so much nerve endings and so
much information that it’s not pleasurable, it’s irritating, right? So again that would
be a time where a woman might say, “No, stop, go away. I don’t like this. This is not working
for me, right? And again the degree of friction might go along with that and that’s where
I’ll put the plug in for the three to five orgasms using oral sex beforehand, but I’ll
just throw that out there one more time, because it decreased the amount irritation when you
have an area of skin that is so highly sensitized, right? So that’s one of the reasons potentially.
Let’s get another couple of thoughts up here. When they have collected data, it appears
that only 20 to 30% of women will report orgasm during intercourse. Okay? Another plug for
why before…. So only 20 to 30% during intercourse. Now if you remember the anatomy that I just
shared, a lot of the female anatomy that has these nerve endings is exterior, it’s not
nerve endings within the vaginal area and, therefore, not all woman, as you can see from
this data, will report that that’s the time that they have the greatest degree of orgasms,
especially if there has been nothing proceeding. So, there has been a debate, again in literature
about if, you know… Can you have a vaginal orgasm, or all orgasms need to be from the
clitoris and you can imagine it’s a little tricky to study this and get human subjects
approval, but it’s being done. People are studying this. Thank goodness because how
are we supposed to learn about our bodies unless we get this information. But there
is debate about this and some authors will state strongly that there is no such thing
as a vaginal orgasm, meaning that any orgasm occurs because some of the area of the clitoris
that we talked about or some other external genitalia is being stimulated during the process
of intercourse and that is what is leading to an orgasm for those 20 to 30 people. So
anyway, it’s kind of a fun little debate to read in literature if you enjoy it. But you
know, again, just make her wanna play, you don’t wanna wait. (#### unintelligible).

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