Changing Lives through Fitness and Health Coaching (with Tash Weddle)

Changing Lives through Fitness and Health Coaching (with Tash Weddle)


-Fitness and health is about so much more
than exercise and proper eating. It is a catalyst for change and affects every other aspect
of your life. This is the philosophy of my guest today, Tash Weddle, the owner of TNB
Fitness and also a founder of The New Beginning Center where she works with low income women
and transforms their lives through holistic coaching and training. I’m Tajci. At 19 I was a superstar and I
was lost inside. I left it all behind, switched continents and started all over. Years later
I found myself lost again, this time in the American Dream. This is a story about awakening.
About living the life you were created for. About going inward and discovering the joyous
and purposeful person you and I are both meant to be. This is Waking Up in America. -So much about how we feel about ourselves is connected to our physical self. Often times
it’s easy to get unmotivated to exercise, to move, and yet it’s that physical activity
that our bodies need in order to produce the hormones that make us feel good about ourselves
and also to be healthy. Ever since I started this show I wanted to have a guest that will
talk about this. How to create a turning point at which we say “Yes, tomorrow I’m starting
to take care of myself and my health.” I’m so excited and honored to have Tash Weddle.
Thank you so much. -Thank you. -So you’re… how would you introduce yourself
best? -I’m a coach. -You’re a coach. But not a life coach? -I’m an all kind of coach. What I do, you
can’t just say it’s just nutritional coaching, you can’t just say it’s fitness coaching
because I’m helping people live their best life however I can help them do that. -I’m so glad you’re saying that because
oftentimes you know, coach is a fitness coach, or you know, or a life coach and there’s
no connection. So let’s start. I want to know your background. How did you come to
be who you are today? -Well, I started out on a basketball court
in Indiana shooting baskets in Fourth Grade and I did grow to be six feet too tall so
basketball was my destiny. -Yes. -I got a full scholarship to play in college.
And unfortunately though, before I went to North Carolina State to play I blew my knee
out and tore my ACL. And it’s important to note though that basketball was my identity.
I spent so much time, it was my passion. It was all I ever thought about. And going to
NC State injured meant I have to sit out for a year. I had surgery, I had to sit out for
a year. -Oh, wow. Give me the age at that time. -I was 18. -Yeah, that’s the time when you are changing. -It’s a major transition, yes. I come back
from that surgery and I do it again. And long story short I had three knee surgeries in
less than two years. -Was basketball your dream? -It was. It’s really what I wanted to coach.
It’s all I ever wanted to do. Probably so much my identity that it wasn’t healthy,
you know? And I guess it was a gift, looking back now, those injuries, because it forced
me to go through this transition to rediscover myself—who am I really? -Yes. And we had many guests on this show
that gets stuck in that identity of their passion and then like you said, you get to
a point in life where you don’t know who you are. -Absolutely. That’s how I felt. And I was
depressed. I couldn’t make myself get out of bed, I couldn’t go to class, and I started
using food—emotional eating. I went from the end of my freshman year I was 140 pounds
to nearly 200 pounds by the end of my sophomore year. It was bad and I was miserable. -What kind of food were you eating? -Just junk food, just self-medicating, you
know? I go to the gas station, get whatever and just try to -Were you aware that you were distracting
and numbing? -Oh, absolutely. But it was an addiction.
And you know, another gift though that I went through that because now with the women I
work with I have walked in their shoes. I see that it’s a very common thing that women
have emotional eating. -Did you feel, I mean, you spent your whole
life, everything you know is exercise regimen, discipline, and so that must have caused a
lot of confusion inside of you. -Yeah, incredible guilt and shame. You know,
I was an athlete and I think I just got so sick and tired I realized that there was nowhere
else to go. The bottom, I had hit the bottom. I didn’t want, you know, to be in this body.
I just wasn’t comfortable. I wasn’t happy. -Was it that one day you walked in the bathroom
and said, “Oh, don’t want to be in that”? -No. I think it was a building up process
that eventually, you know, I believe that people change for two reasons: one, you’re
sick and tired of where you’re at and you’re sick and tired and you’re ready to do something
about it, and the second reason is that you do something that feels good and you feel
successful at and you want that feeling more. And that’s exactly what happened for me. -We’re talking to Tash Weddle about the
turning point that happens when we’re sick and tired of being sick and tired. And then
we’ll find out when we come back what that transformation brought into her life. -Here we are with Tash Weddle, a coach—a
holistic, a whole-person coach -Yes. -Both body and mind and spirit. -Yes. -How beautiful. So we’re at the point where
you grew up as an athlete, your dream is shattered when you have the injuries and then you start
eating, emotional eating, which becomes an addiction, and you wake up, which you thought
was overweight. -Oh yeah. -And then what happened? What are the steps
that you took? -Well, I was dealing with my injuries at that
time. So I walked into the weight room on my own. When you’re on a basketball team you’re
supposed to go workout with the team but I went on my own and I just liked the way it
felt. I was like, “This is where I’m gonna fix this. This is where I’m gonna heal myself.”
And I did. -I imagine, sorry, being a musician I imagine
you walking into a gym late at night, and some beautiful music playing and there’s
Tash picking up a weight. Was it like that? -Well, there usually is music playing in the
weight room. -That’s the only way how I would do it if
it was a movie. But I’m asking because you know, that moment is so hard for most of us. -Absolutely. It is so hard to take the first
step. It’s the hardest step to take. -But you made it. -I did. -And you found a different kind of satisfaction
in strength training. -It was empowering because I could be successful
still. I mean, even though I wasn’t able to play the sport that I loved, basketball,
I was able to set goals and achieve them. And I’m very goal oriented and I just found
my match. It was also, I was always challenging myself. -Right. -Not competing against someone else. And that’s
what I needed at that time. It was just to deal with myself. -Wow. Yes. So once you’re dealing with yourself
is that where your identity is restored? Because it’s still, you’re still immersing yourself
in just a different kind of athletic activity. -Yeah. Well, I did. I loved it so much I transferred
schools, I had a great strength conditioning coach and continued to play basketball and
finish my career. But I was inspired so much by my experience with this coach that I
chose to become a collegiate strength conditioning coach for my career. And I did that for 17
years. And I would say that yeah, I had another you know, that was my identity again. Yeah,
I worked with college athletes, this is an important job you know, and it is important. -It’s a beautiful job. -We all get caught in our bubbles. -Yes. Especially when we have success, like
you said. -Yeah. -So then what happened? -So then in my 17th year of doing that I realized
there’s a whole world out there and I don’t know anything about it and I’m really tired
of living in this bubble. It was not gratifying work for me anymore. It was all about wins
and losses. It was ups and downs. I lived from season to season just waiting for a break
at that point. I realized I just needed to do something else and so I have taken my skill
set and chosen to start The New Beginning Center, which is a nonprofit that helps women. -Yes, and when we were talking, when we were
preparing for this conversation, you mentioned you had a friend that was instrumental. -Yeah. So I had all the knowledge I needed
in exercise, nutrition, and coaching and behavior change but I did not have business knowledge
or nonprofit management knowledge. So I had a friend Chris McCarthy who was a Habitat
for Humanity CEO and I was her trainer at that time. And so she suggested this and basically
got the ball rolling. -The reason why I bring this up is because
I always encourage our viewers to be that someone. We all need that someone to give
us that. -Absolutely. -The first coach and then a friend to help
us on that transition, point of, and make that first step. -That’s absolutely true. I mean, Chris,
a phenomenal woman, but that was such a gift to me but it was meaningful for her too, to
be able to pass on her. She was retiring and she was passing on what she knew to help it
to carry on that. -You know, the beautiful thing I noticed about
guests talking about their turning points is how once we really awaken to the place
of “Who am I? And what is really my purpose?” it seems like there is always that social
enterprise, that giving back, that desire to give back. And my guest is Tash Weddle, when we come
back we will talk about The New Beginning Center and her work with low income women and transforming their lives. -Do you feel stuck in your life? Are you waiting
for a miracle? Would you like to transform your pain and anxiety to joy and freedom?
Here’s how. The answers are in my book, “Turning Points”. There are dozens of
stories of people like you—people stuck in addictions, abuse, and bad relationships.
But they all took that first step. They all went on a transformational journey and so
can you. Visit WakingUpRevolution.com or Amazon.com or any major online book seller. Get your
copy and turn your life around today. -My guest is Tash Weddle and we’re talking
about an amazing transformation that includes body and mind and spirit, which is actually
what every good life transformation does. -Yeah. -So once you, now you find your identity,
you’re looking for a more purposeful life and you set up New Beginning Center. And you
mentioned, you said something beautiful that athletes are really good as business people
or as workers because you have time management? -Time management, we’re goal oriented, competitive. -Competitive. So tell me about The New Beginning
Center. -It’s been in existence now for nearly five
years. I started our first pilot group with four women just to see how this would go.
And they did phenomenal. They lost 12% of their body weight. It was truly life changing
for these women. I hit the road, foundations are giving money to us. We have fundraising
events, we had this social entrepreneurship with TNB fitness but now we are serving about
380 women a year. -Wow. How beautiful. -What we do is, it’s technically a year-long program
where women, regardless of their ability to pay, can receive free training or sliding
scale fees and they come two to three times a week to our facility and we go through 12
weeks of nutrition coaching and we exercise and we also do some life coaching.
We do personal mission statements, we do vision boards, and things like that. So it’s a
totally new beginning for them. -Sounds like a very different way to coach. -It is. Maybe some people consider it a little
New Age-y. But it’s working because we’re achieving about 8% weight loss in 12 weeks,
in the first 12 weeks. And that’s phenomenal. That’s enough to reverse Type II Diabetes. -Wow. -And 67% of the women either decrease or stop
taking their prescription medications. -Wow. That’s amazing. But those women still
have to come to you. They have to have that initial desire. -They have to have the initial desire to take
the first step. We do have two satellite locations and we hope to expand this model in the future.
I like women to come when they are sick and tired and they’ve tried other things because
then they have a little bit of willingness to listen to me. -Yes, yes. And I think most of us have experienced,
I’ve tried this and it didn’t work and I’m sick and tired of it not working. So
what do you offer that’s different? Like, what concrete steps do you offer? -Well, first thing is, we only work on changing
one habit at a time. -Oh, that sounds so good. Yes. -Because if we work on one habit you’re
80% likely to be successful with it. As soon as you add a second habit, your success
rate drops to 20%. -Let’s just repeat that. So if you work
on one habit -Work on one thing -That you’re changing, you have 80% chance
of success. -Yes. -So like what would one habit be that I could
start tomorrow? -Our very first habit is to drink 8 cups of
water a day. -Okay. -And I don’t let people move on until they’re
doing that. And then we want to eat four palms of protein. And we use the hand guide. And
then we want them to eat about four to six fists of veggies. And then we move on to the
carb habit, which we want to eat real food that did not go through a factory. And then
we back up everything too. It’s eating to 80% full. -Right. -Eating slower. -So we’re eating mindfully. We’re working
on the mindfulness part. -Yes. -But each week we roll out a new habit. And
we score their food logs and give them feedback and we talk with them and we find solutions
and we talk about prepping your food at the beginning of the week, setting yourself up
for success. We talk about cleaning out your kitchen with all your trigger foods, setting
yourself up for success. -Yes. -And just staying focused on that one thing.
And it really needs to be like brushing your teeth. You don’t forget to brush your teeth.
It’s a habit. -Yes. It’s a habit. -That’s really how we want to get these
habits ingrained. They may take years. But they know what they are and they know the
system. Even if they don’t follow them 100% of the time they have phenomenal results. -You know what, I’ve heard it so many times,
drink eight cups of water and drink, you know, eat protein and vegetables. We’ve read it
so much and I think everybody knows it. Why don’t we do it? -Probably because we have an all-or-nothing
mentality. Guys don’t work 95% of the time, there’s a reason. Because we think it has
to be perfect or we quit. And it’s, you know, we need to have a mind shift of instead
of thinking “I can’t have this,” or “I need to get this out or stop eating that,”
it needs to be, “How many good things that add value to my body can I get in a day? Let
me count the good things I’m doing. Let me focus on what I do need. Let me change
how I do think and identify me. I’m a vibrant, healthy, strong woman who values my health.” -I eat these good foods. I eat foods that
add value to my body. I don’t diet. -Yes. So it’s a positive mindset instead
of just like, I was talking to a friend about having you as a guest today and I said, “I’m
so excited because I never go to the gym,” so that’s like immediately it’s that negative,
“I never do this,” “I don’t do this,” or “I’m not good at this.” -Right. -And all these thoughts. We have to shift
in order to adapt these new, good, positive habits and have success, see the success.
Is that what you’re saying? -Yeah. I mean, you could change, “I don’t
like going to the gym,” or “I never go to the gym,” to “I enjoy moving my body.” -Yes. -And that will take whatever form it should
be. -And that’s another question, you know.
A lot of people make that turning point, “Okay, I’m going to be serious about diet and exercise,”
once they have a medical problem. -Yeah. -And so what we’re exploring in this show
is how can we create these turning points before the big wake-up call happens? What
is some of the motivation? Like if I came to you and I said, “Help me to motivate
myself. Help me to be healthy.” -I think what becomes motivating is it feels
really good to take care of yourself, it feels really good to prep your food, it feels really
good to get enough sleep at night. It really feels really good to do all these things.
A lot of people, maybe even normal weight come to me but they don’t feel good. -Yes. -They know that something’s missing and
it’s really not about the food, it’s really not about the exercise. It’s about a lack
of self-nurturing behavior. -Yes. -And that’s what I want to be addictive. -But you know, I have viewers who’ll say,
“But Tash, I have kids. I have two jobs. I can’t. Once I take care of everybody else
I have no energy.” -I see it all the time—women who have raised
their families and have put themselves last and they’re tired and they’re exhausted
and they’re kind of resentful about it. And I mean, I work a lot of hours myself.
I just don’t buy the “I don’t have time,” because we make time for what we value. And
if you value life and living the fullest life that you can then maybe just take some soul-searching. -If you value life, take some time to soul
search. Wow. We’re talking to Tash Weddle. And when we come back we’ll have some more
awesome wisdom. -Are you planning a live event looking to
bring inspiration and a fresh approach to wake up your community or organization? Tajci’s
keynote concerts are transformational experiences that lead your audience to a life of joy,
authenticity, courage, and purpose. Book Tajci for your next event now by visiting WakingUpRevolution.com. -Tash, thank you so much for all the great
tips that you gave us and thank you for listening to your soul and following your call to helping
others. What I really love is that you have your TNB Fitness support The New Beginning
Center. So I think that would be one of my motivations to know that with my membership,
with my working out I’m helping out somebody else. That could get me to a gym. -It is great motivation for a lot of our clients,
yeah. -So thank you. And we’ll have links to your
company and if you ever visit Nashville come stop by. Alright, so I have an email from
a viewer, Stephanie from Cincinnati. And she says, and I know this is a common problem,
she says, “I get really depressed about my finances. And when I’m depressed I eat.
And then I become unmotivated to exercise. How can I stop this cycle?” -I would say that next time have a plan of
just pausing and even if it’s breathing, five breaths. And it doesn’t even mean that
you have to change your behavior. But you just have to ask, what am I doing this for?
What do I really want? -You know what, one thing that I advise my
coaching clients is to practice this when times are good. To kind of like adopt this practice,
now I want to eat candy well, and I’m not depressed, I’m going to change that behavior,
have a plan, breathe, and when I’m in a good place practice that. And so hopefully
you are ready when depression comes. -And when it comes to exercise it’s been
shown as effective as Zoloft in research. So it’s funny about exercise, when you feel
depressed you don’t feel like doing it but doing it would really help your depression.
So sometimes you just have to talk yourself into getting to the gym or getting in your
gym clothes and by that point you’re good. Five minutes in, you’re not going to stop. -Yes. -And nobody ever regrets going to the gym. -Alright. Let’s do one word answers. Ready? -Yeah. -Alright. What brings you most joy? -My dogs. -What scares you the most? -Failure. -What are you most grateful for? -All the opportunity and love in my life. -One thing you’d like to be more of? -Easy going. -What is your biggest challenge? -Getting around my own self. -Last book you read? -All The Light We Cannot See. -I believe in? -Love. -All that our world needs is? -More love. -If I could abolish anything from the earth
it would be? -Fear. -Favorite sport? -I don’t like sports. I spent my whole life
in them. -Favorite local charity? -The New Beginning Center. -Who do you want to help most? -The people that are willing. -Fruits or vegetables? -Vegetables. -Oh please! Europe or Latin America? -Europe. -Sushi or Mediterranean cuisine? -Mediterranean. -Shoes or bare foot? -Bare foot. -This year I claim? -Do better than ever. -Thank you. -Thank you. -This is such a treat to have Kat Hunter here. -Thank you. -So when I asked Tash to bring a musical guest
she knew right away who she’s going to ask. -And I said it would be great if it was your
client. So this is why it’s such a treat because I want to know, is this possible? -Yeah, it all worked out. It all lined up.
We’re ending the end of the 12-week program that we were doing so I don’t know if she
kind of threw it out there as a “You gotta do this.” But no, Tash and I have been friends
for a really long time and I just happen to have a song that just kind of fit in perfectly
with what she enjoys and kinda where I’ve been over the last span of 20 years of my
life—pretty much each verse. -And the song? -It’s one Decade basically. Yeah, so the
song is Second Wind. It kind of had an athletic tone to it. -Oh you mean like the second wind when you
wish you would not have a -Like when you’re running and you can’t
do any more and all of a sudden that second wind kinda catches in and you can push a little
further. So it just fit in perfectly. -So what was your goal, you challenge while
working with Tash? -First of all, to complete it. Twelve weeks
is a long time and it is a big commitment but she brings a lot of knowledge, a lot of
encouragement that you can’t get anywhere else. So when she had the certification and
she said, “Would you be interested in doing this program?” I was like, “Yes, absolutely.
Sign me up.” -So Tash, when you have a friend is that harder
than a stranger to work with? -I actually did a transformation with Kat
many years ago and I knew her work ethic so I was like, “Yeah, you could do this absolutely,”
because she works hard and I can count on her to show up. And she’s super easy for
me to coach so I just already knew her character. -Wow. So do you think other singer-songwriters
can do the same thing? -Anybody. I mean, the way I coach now is I
meet everyone where they’re at. And it’s not about meeting my expectation, it’s about
getting a little bit better than you were yesterday every day. -Yes. And I can’t wait to hear you sing. -Thank you. -Thank you so much. -Thank you for having me. Thank you. -If I had a dime for the dollars I waste
I’d buy myself right out of this place. Saying why I eat that mid-well steak
Wish I had more time for the dollars I waste That black warrior rolls right past my home
I’d call my friends but my friends are gone. Who’s gonna hear my brand new song?
I’d call my friends but my friends are gone. I think it’s time I hit the road before
I get old That salt water washing off my feet
That cold still air was sweet but brief Flown me back where I belong
My heart feels clean now that I’m home And I’m feeling young again
Think I’ve caught my second wind Same zip code but a brand new street
Same pillow but a brand new sheet I feel in love with somebody I know
Right here at home, right under my nose Now I can hear the song
It’s been playing all along -What can you do to get out of your cycle
and create that turning point that will shift you into life in which you’ll feel good
physically, in your mind and in your spirit? And how would those around you benefit if
you felt healthy and great in your body? And I do hope that you will share this episode
with your friend, someone you know struggles with weight or health and could use a little
bit of inspiration. Visit WakingUpRevolution.com to replay this episode and share it. And there
you’ll find links and more support so that you can create that turning point in your
life. Thank you so much. We’ll see you again. -I’m Olga Aleeeva. I’m the artist and
owner of O’Gallery. This episode was filmed at my studio at Marathon Village, Nashville.
Please visit us at ogalleryart.com. Thank you.

One comment

  1. Tajci imas puno pozdrava od fanova iz Srbije. Tvoje pesme se i danas slusaju, i necemo te nikada zaboraviti. Tvoja pozitivna energija je jako "zarazna", ali ja ne zalim sto me je uhvatio "Tajčititis", s njim je jako lepo ziveti 🙂

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