How can I be depressed when my life is great? #KatiFAQ | Kati Morton

How can I be depressed when my life is great? #KatiFAQ | Kati Morton


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  1. thank you for this video, Kati. i have the same problem as the person who asked you this question. as you answered i just started to cry. i dont know why i did. you totally understand us, i wish more people were as educated and accepting as you. much love form NJ <3

  2. The way I describe depression for people who don't understand it is this:  Depression is an actual biological disease.  Depression takes away the ability to enjoy things.  You could have all the money in the world.  A big house.  Car.  Love.  Etc….  But if you have depression, your brain does not quite know how to experience joy and happiness, despite having everything you've ever wanted.

  3. I totally love this video and completely relate to the question posed. I always feel like I have no reason to feel the way I do or act the way I do. Your videos are so great, thank you for all you do!! Also a podcast would be one of the best things in the world, maybe even as good as Christmas morning 🙂

  4. Thanks Kati, it was exactly when everything was going right for me and I was depressed that I knew something was up. #FAQ – I was seeing a therapist for talk therapy and after like 8 sessions I felt like we were always just making chit chat and I was not really getting much in the way of Therapy. I think there were a few sessions that were ok, but the other ones I felt could have been conversations with anyone. It was really expensive and I feel like I was taken to the cleaners. Can I ask for money back?

  5. I've been watching your videos for such a long time and I wish I could meet you to thank you in person for everything you do, I don't think you understand how inspiring and amazing it is, just to see someone stand up for people with mental health issues, to see someone who genuinely wants to make a difference, you want this community to grow so that you can help more people, so that we can help each other more, so that more people can understand mental health and I think that's wonderful.Your videos give me so much hope and insight into my own issues but also into how people who don't have the same issues as me might be feeling, I often forget that I don't automatically relate to all people with mental health issues, because not all illnesses are the same.You are a wonderful human being and I sincerely hope you know how wonderful what you're doing is! Hope one day you visit London! I'd love to meet you! xx

  6. If anyone finds Kati's post on facebook about the brain scans she mentions, can you tell me what date it was posted? I cant find it ?

    This video is what I needed to hear today.

  7. #katiFAQ
    Hey Kati! So I recently told my mom I have depression and that I want to talk to someone, she has found a counsellor service through my dads work. They can't be the same as seeing a therapist right? When I looked it up online there website said "LifeWorks is an employee assistance programme brought to employees free of charge by their employers to help them manage personal issues at work or at home." I feel like it will be going to the counselor my college offered, which I tried and did not like/ was not good enough. What are your thoughts? Can I ask my mom that I want a real therapist? Thanks ps love you!

  8. Hey Kati! I have a question about Disthymia. Some days I will feel wonderful and like I don't even have it. Other times, it will just bowl me over. I'm on Cymbalta and it helps. But I was wondering if this experience of Disthymia symptoms coming in waves common?

  9. Yes please do podcasts! I love your interview in the Mental Illness Happy Hour. Plus the podcast can be longer than the videos and that would be great to hear you talk more in depth on topics.

  10. I have the greatest anxiety when I do anything artistic. I want to panic and cry when I have to create anything and I can't stop judging myself for whatever I create, even though I know art is subjective and is "in the eye of the beholder." I am the same when I do my makeup. I am afraid that everything I do looks bad, that others will judge it and ultimately feel like "what is the point of doing it if I am bad at it?"
    How can I stop torturing myself over this?

  11. I have a drug-resistant depression among other things 🙁 I've been in therapy for 7 years and I'm not getting much better. Anything else I can do?

  12. This is possibly my favourite video I have ever seen on YouTube. It makes so much click and I think everyone should watch, possibly especially people who aren't struggling with mental illness. Thank you so much for this Kati

  13. Its just I've never be diagnosed with depression but I haven't and don't plan on telling anyone how i feel but I feel severely depressed 24/7 and it just gets worse and worse

  14. Thanks, I needed to hear this (once again). And I also have a  question (or for anybody else to answer if you like): I will (hopefully) go see a therapist soon but I am worried that he wont give me a diagnosis because I don't meet all the criteria. How likely is it to feel like you have depression but not actually having it? (Also I do struggle with self harm, so maybe that's enough to get me a diagnosis? I don't even know why that is so important to me, being diagnosed, I mean…)

  15. #katifaq could you talk about adjustment disorder with depressed mood and anxiety? That's what my therapist wrote down last time but I don't know if I fully agree. I also have ADHD and so I guess I do have trouble adjusting and moving forward because it's hard for me to start tasks but I don't know. I guess I would just like clarification of what the diagnosis is.

  16. After watching this video, I felt motivated enough to get out of bed and take my medication. Thank you. 🙂

  17. My therapist thinks I could be slightly underweight. During my last session with her, she asked me if my hip bones stick out… She said that's an indicator that my body doesn't have 'enough mass' to cover my skeleton… My hip bones do stick out, but I always thought it was just the way my body was built, and that it was normal. Could it be just that? Normal…?

  18. #katifaq Hi Kati! Thanks for all of your hard work and videos, they help so much. I was wondering, I recently told my mom about some minor sexual abuse I experienced from a family member a couple of years ago because I thought it would help. But now I am so scared to talk about it again that I get panic attacks whenever I'm around her. I want to go back into therapy for unrelated reasons, but I am scared to ask her in case she brings up the abuse again. Even if I managed to talk more about the abuse to her again I am afraid it would make things worse. Do you have any idea what I should do? My mom used to be my best friend, and now I can't stand being around her.

  19. Hey kati, I have a question… Lately I've been feeling worthless and unneeded and I feel like there's no way to fix this problem. I just started cutting myself on day because I felt so numb that I just kept cutting myself till I could feel anything. Sometimes the feeling comes just at random times and I just feel like no one really cares what happens to me. I don't know if you'll see this but if you do could you reply back with some help please.

  20. #katiFAQ Hey Kati, I'm a cutter. I'm trying to get better because I don't want anymore scars than I already have for the summer but it's so hard not to relapse. I was wondering what counts as relapse? I've started hitting myself and scratch myself instead. I know that everything goes in the category self harm but I still feel a little bit proud of myself when I at least stay away from my blades but I still feel a bit ashamed when I look at my bruises and scratch marks. Am I relapsing even though I'm not doing the self harm that I usually do?

  21. #KatiFAQ 
    Hi Kati, 
    I don't know what to do, I feel like i am in limbo all the time, and I am also extremely paranoid. I know that this sounds stupid and unbelievable but I think my mum and dad have hidden camera in my room so they can watch me all the time, I have even tried setting traps in my room to catch them out and have tipped my room up side down looking for them but no luck but I still think they are there. I told my doctor and he referred me to a psychotherapist however i got the letter bad with me "diagnoses" and she has written "she once thought there were cameras watching her but has since grown out of the idea" but i know the camera are there! 🙁 i don't know what to do i feel like in the whole assessment i was saying something and she was twisting what i said and putting words in my mouth. my boy friend read the overview of the assessment and even he said "that not what you said, you said…" (he went in with me) i don't know what to do and i feel like the psychotherapist and my doctor are plotting against me! what do i do?

    (i live in the UK)

  22. #KatiFAQ I have this habit where I make up "bad" scenarios in my head usually at night, but I sometimes wish it would happen in real life… For example, being told I'm going to get sectioned or getting told I will be hospitalised for my ED, I don't understand my thinking? Any clarification? Thanks.

  23. #KatiFAQ
    Hey Kati; 

    I would also like to know if its OK for me to like cutting. When I started I felt so numb that I just kept going till I could feel it, when that feeling comes I go through this list of different things I could do instead of cutting. in the end I always end up giving into the feeling of needing to feel the pain. I'm really confused on how to continue on…..

  24. I don't know how I feel. I don't know if I have depression honestly. Like maybe I'm just a genially sad person? I don't really know. Maybe I'm doing it for attention and I don't even know that I am. I just can't wrap my mind thinking that there's something wrong in my head. I never felt this way till like 4 years ago.

  25. I went to Facebook looking for the brain scan of a depressed person vs. a person without depression.  I couldn't find it!  Please tell me where I can find it.  I love your videos so much!  Thanks so much for all you do.

  26. I've watched a few of your videos in the past and just found you again today and have been watching a bunch of videos tonight, I can't believe how much they are helping me out. I struggle with ptsd, anxiety and depression and I stopped getting therapy because I thought it wasnt helping and watching your videos helped me to get to a place where I want to get help again. I thought I wasn't allowed to feel this way and that I didn't need or deserve treatment but now im starting to see that I was wrong. Im crying while writing this, thank you so much

  27. Being a U.S. soldier my family do not understand how I can go to war and be depressed. They think my life is perfect. In a way it is very good. I am about to marry the love of my life and have two great kids. But sometimes I am so sad and mad at the same time.

  28. If Depression is caused by a chemical difference, then is it even possible to be "fake happy"? I hope that question makes sense!

  29. It's so confusing because some 'experts' and books say that depression isn't a chemical imbalance. You don't know who to believe.

  30. Hi Katie ! I'm almost 46 yrs old with severe depression . I'm so embarrassed about it. I do see a therapist ya ! She is Awesome 🙂 I just got off the phone with my boss . I had a mental brake down the last few days . I just finally told my boss . I want to work an live like everyone else . We just want to blend in society . I had to call her an tell her I'm going to be off for a few days . I felt like she had compassion but ,I don't want to get fired if it happens again . If you have any thoughts on this feel free to contact me . Thank U <3

  31. I know this video is from almost a year ago but I just recently came across your channel, so I've been watching a ton of videos! LOL. Anyways, whenever I tell my therapist that I'm feeling so down in the dumps lately and I don't have any motivation to do something, she always asks me a question along the lines of "what has come up to make you feel like this" etc. She knows I have depression. Why is she asking me questions instead of giving me helpful tools to help me get through the day? Thanks!

  32. What do I do. I feel like I'm to young to understand this but I feel like I've educated myself in doing so.

    I believe I've had depression for along time now but I've never known what depressing really was. We learn about it in school but I feel like I zone out every time we talk about it. I've realized
    I'm sad when I'm alone so I thought maybe I need more company. I didn't think it would be depression as I smile, a lot, I smile so much it would look as if I don't know what sadness is. Although, i feel as i want attention but I don't i don't want it I never have. My mother isn't English and I visited when she had been born and the country, she told her family that where I live in the west that 12 and 13 year olds have depression. They seemed shocked and she laughed. I felt singled out, targeted like they knew and they wanted me to know they knew. I am 12 and that may shock people who have read it this far. I'm guessing that people who read this are older than me and more mature as if it were left to me I would live the way I am sad but happy from the outside. My friend said that I had depression as once in class it felt like I was exhausted from a run that I hadn't physically don't so I began to walk, I began to show myself, I became sad like I had forgot I was in a class full of my classmates.

  33. I REALLY needed to hear this. So tired of hearing people saying it's my own fault, I can change it if I only wanted to, I need to exercise because that obviously solves everything, I've got to stop eating gluten (wtf?) and defenitely stop taking medication. I just want people to be compassionate. To say "Oh, my. That must be difficult. I'm sorry. And I believe you." I get so angry with people being uninformed and blaming us for having depression, I get angry, then sad and hopeless and spiral even further down.
    I'm bipolar and am trying to find balance with my meds, I just hope I find one that gets me good enough to actually being able to do things. And I don't mean being able to work or so (don't think that's realistic, given my history), I just mean having the energy, stability and motivation to do stuff in my life that I enjoy. Being able to lead a healthy and fulfilling life that prevents me from falling down again. That's when I can exercise and do social stuff that lessen depression, but now I'm too low and get sad at people not realising it. It can easily take two hours to get a cup of youghurt out of the fridge – and actually go about and eat it, and the only reason I bother is because I've had severe anorexia and know I really need to eat regularly. But I moved back in with my mom now (I'm 29) and I'm so glad to get her help. And have a great psychiatry nurse that I talk to. I'm just very weak and very tired. And feel very hopeless from time to time.
    Sorry messy comment… But thank you, Katie.

  34. Very interesting video! I didn't know depression occurs because of brain chemistry and/or genetics. Thank you so much for posting videos! <3

  35. This question is really easy when you remember that mental illnesses are ILLNESSES. Can you get a cold if the rest of your life is going perfectly? Obviously. It's the same with any mental illness.

  36. Yes! I just subscribed to your channel two weeks ago. Now I'm watching your videos on my 1hr commutes and while cleaning my room and almost all the the time. Thank you so much for creating these videos. I feel like you're my friend and like I'm not going crazy for once. Love you Kati ? – massi from Jersey

  37. I think it's stupid and disempowering to tell people they cannot change the way they feel or that they cannot control their depression… i

  38. This is exactly what my parents don't understand. They plan fun stuff thinking that it will make me happy and feel better and it does for a short amount of time but it doesn't fix it. They also ask me if it's something that they have done wrong or they will say something along the lines of "You don't have a bad life you have a great life so get over it and be happy because you have nothing to be sad about." They don't understand that it's not something I can control. I get this from my mom's side of the family they all suffer from mental illness. I'm 13 and I have had anxiety since I was 6, diagnosed with PTSD when I was 8 after a lot of loss in my family and I have suffered from depression since the age of 10. But I have gotten so used to putting a mask on and letting all of my emotions out when I'm alone my mom doesn't take it seriously because she can't see it. And because she can't see it she doesn't think that I have had it for 3 years so she tells me "No you haven't had it for three years you're making that up!" And it upsets me and makes it worse. Any advice on how to explain this to my parents so that I can maybe get some help?

  39. if you tour at all would you be willing to come to Wisconsin? i’m trans and i struggle with depression and EDNOS and would love to chat with you ❤️

  40. I listen to you when I'm in Bed just before I fall asleep because your life saving tips, tricks and explanations are the last things I think about before sleep.

  41. Good god, Kati, thank you! I struggled with the "Oh, my depression would probably disappear if x, y, or z were true" myth for YEARS. I suffered through family members telling me I had so much to be grateful for and blah blah blah. It's all bs and depression doesn't discriminate. It's an equal opportunity mental illness! Yay! ????

  42. Major lightbulb moment for me in this video. You spoke to the biologist in me. Now I feel ridiculous for not realizing it's a physical problem. Lol. Thank you!

  43. I hate how living with depression means that even the stupidest things become frustrating and more of a task than a routine. Literally I cried when I was eating tonight because I couldn't get food on my fork in one try– that's how minute of a detail it was in my life. I wasn't even hungry, i just knew I was supposed to eat, so I did. And if you say one thing that was embarrassing it means the end of the world to you, like if you say the wrong answer in class no one will remember, most likely, but for some reason you just want to crawl in a hole and die. I know they are such small details but I can't help but sit there and frustrate myself.

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  45. Stephen Fry once said that no-one would ask a person with asthma: what do you have to have asthma about? Depression is a condition, just as real as asthma….

  46. Recovering from depression feeling better but yet cannot push myself out of the house …once I am in the house I don't want to talk with anyone …no phones….for hours and movies on Netflix are my only companion . Food has also never betrayed me .
    My psychiatrist think I am out of depression but not completely and adjusting medicines .
    What can I do to overcome this kind of social aversion

  47. Katie, this is just the video I needed. I've been trying to snap out of it for a while now, because that's exactly what Ive been told. What you said here made me cry!

  48. Helllo kati. I respect what you do and you seem a very kind person who wants to help but you are wrong about someone being depressed for no reason. Even if you have "depressive genes" you need a trigger for depression to come. Chemical imbalance is a result of negative thinking. I say this because it is not very helpfull to feel that you have no control of your situation. That you are doomed because of you bad genes and feel helpless and problematic. Negative beliefs about our selves is the trigger of depression and anxiety and we have control over it to change them. It is not our fault that we have these beliefs because they were created during our childhood. So any imbalance that is created can be changed with medication and good psychotherapy targeting on changing beliefs and removing guild. Am speaking out of long personal experience as i was a victim of misconceptions of psychiatry almost my whole life and got better once the real story was presented to me. All these unproven myths bring helplessness and incecurity instead of internal security.
    I hope you make avideo about this one day. Keep up the good work. Sending you my love!

  49. I agree with you, because I always hear people saying just be happy, everything will be all right, and sometimes I get told I have no right whatsoever to feel like I'm in physical or mental pain, and it's usually my mother who's the one telling me this, which makes me feel like I can't tell her anything.

  50. For me , it’s a combo of chem imbalance, genetics and things that happened as a child (not having any guidance/or bad guidance ) and then the way I chose to live my life and people that I let into my life causing hardships that I just didn’t know any better than to not get myself into. The more research I do and the older I get the more I understand it. (And of course counseling-online from KATI and in person 🙂 gotta exercise, be w friends and have a higher power. Constantly. No exceptions. It seems like everybody busts floats through life on a darn cloud and everyday is a struggle for me but I am different and I have to love my differences. No exceptions! Bc, I personally can’t take antidepressants, and this is the only way. Hope someone reads this and understands and maybe it helps them:) thank you for being so open and comforting .

  51. I think people don’t understand the imbalance thing bc it seems like it means “ you were born w it” when , as that might be true, things and choices you make can worsen the imbalance , so some of it can be “your fault” but you are predisposed. Am I right about this KATI?

  52. ugh i 100% connect with this question ! i was hospitalized and i felt so guilty for being there because other people’s past or situations were so much more “severe” than mine. this made me feel like i didn’t belong there even though there was stuff wrong with me

  53. I have been struggling with bipolar depression and a lot of other things my hole life. I have been trying to get help without going back on meds. I was hoping that you might have some ideas. Thank you for helping us out here. It is truly amazing.

  54. I found that incredibly helpful. More than anything else. Thank you for equipping me so I can guide those around me.

  55. i recently (a week ago) started taking Piracetam… i write this because it has been night n day… i feel like i can focus after years of being unable to… i that makes me feel way better (still taking my antidepresants and anxiolitics) but there is synergy adding piracetam… i had derealization episodes and got it prescribed… but i will stick to it…

  56. This hit me so hard I have a great school I technicly have friends and my family well atleast they are there but for the last 8 months I have not felt anything I have rushes of pain and anger but nothing Else sure I can be happy in the moment but not more and I hate it

  57. In special relativity, everything has to work no matter how you look at it, but it doesn't have to look the same from every viewpoint. Muons can reach us from the upper atmosphere because (from our reference frame) time dilation allows them to persist for the whole journey. However, the muons see the atmosphere length-contracted to a couple hundred meters thick. It works out the same, but no one sees what the other guy is seeing. I think that principle applies to a lot more than relativistic physics
    Switching to a biochemical view of depression is valid, and it will give us correct predictions. But people have a continuous subjective experience that leads them to where we predict from biology, and they don't internally see it as mechanistic. So for a complete understanding, we have to understand what internal experiences allow depression to persist through a "great" life. I would argue that the culprit is hedonistic adaptation. Barring extreme situations, the events of your life don't really affect your mood over the long term. Sure, something fun can be fun, but you get used to it, and then it doesn't help as much.

  58. I know this is 3 years late but im stell gonna tell you this, i went through depression and it went away for a year and it came back and my life is great but my mom doesn't understand why she just says thats my life is not bad

  59. My friend has depression with an amazing life I searched this up cause I want to help her and yes I know another person can’t make you happy but still! I would try she has an amazing life I would trade it every day and it’s frustrating sometimes because I have a screwed up life and she’s sad when she has a perfectly fine one!! Just please help me
    This bugs me so much do all people
    With actually screwed up lives feel like this? Yes I know this video is about the opposite side but can you help the other people who need to understand!

  60. Nope liars!!! Rich people aren’t depressed they are ungrateful!!!!!!!!!!! I wish people could see through their evil lies

  61. But…
    I'm 10, I cannot get a therapist on my own… Sadly, I am depressed. My mother does not think I am. She asks, "Why would you think you're depressed!? You have a good life!" I do, but I dont feel right.. She doesnt think I am, she thinks I just have a sleeping disorder, and so we try to help with that. But, it doesnt help. I don't fall asleep, and all I do is cry, night or day. She doesnt think I'm depressed. I am more than just crying, but, i dont feel like typing it all. Thanks for helping though.

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