Lady Gaga’s Emotional Speech on Surviving Sexual Assault and Mental Health | ELLE

Lady Gaga’s Emotional Speech on Surviving Sexual Assault and Mental Health | ELLE


♪ From the shallow now ♪ (audience laughs) – I don’t know if I’m
working it right now. It’s hard to know what to say. I wrote this speech and there’s teleprompters
and I got papers. I don’t know what to– (audience laughs) Use. And in truth, I was just trying
to memorize Anita’s speech because it was so beautiful, but… You give me hope! Thank you, Jennifer, for
that beautiful introduction. You’re an inspiration to so many. Thank you not only for everything you continually do for women, but for the force of nature you’ve been for so many all over the world. I think about me and my best friend who’s here tonight, right there. (audience applauds) I’ve known her since I was four years old. Beautiful adopted woman from Korea. And how throughout high school, we danced and we sang, imitating Jennifer. (audience laughs) Imitating you while we
strengthened our bond. Her name is Bo. And wearing white bandanas and hoop earrings draped
over caramel colored hair. You brought us so much joy. Where are you? You brought us so much joy. On the train, I thought about you. (audience laughs) And how the fuck I was
gonna get off that train. (audience laughs) She loved you so much we even
gave her the nickname, J-Bo. (audience laughs) No for real. Like, we called her that all the time. There is not a doubt in my mind that you will be loved forever as the powerhouse of a performer
and woman that you are. Thank you for making so many
memories for me and my friends that I will cherish forever in my heart. Thank you so much. (audience applauds) I never in my wildest dreams thought that my life
would become what it has. But more so, to be honored this evening purely for being a woman. It’s beyond what I could have imagined. I guess I didn’t see it
happening in my lifetime. I am immensely privileged to be in the company of
so many powerful women who have changed so many people’s lives. I am so humbled to be
standing hand-in-hand with every one of you today. I spent a lot of time thinking about what I
wanted to say tonight because of all of you,
because you inspire me. How does one rise to such an occasion, when maybe you don’t feel that inside? How does one accept where
life has brought them, and what it all means? As I tried on dress after dress today, getting ready for this event, one tight corset after another, one heel after another,
a diamond, a feather, thousands of beaded fabrics, and the most beautiful silks in the world, to be honest, I felt sick to my stomach and I asked myself, what does it really mean
to be a woman in Hollywood? We are not just objects
to entertain the world. We are not simply images to bring smiles or
grimaces to people’s faces. We are not members of
a giant beauty pageant meant to be pit against one another for the pleasures of the public. We women in Hollywood, we are voices. We have deep thoughts and ideas and beliefs and
values about the world and we have the power
to speak and be heard and fight back when we are silenced. So, after trying on 10 or so dresses, with a sad feeling in my heart that all that would matter was what I wore to this red carpet, I saw an oversized Marc Jacobs suit buried quietly in the corner. (audience laughs) I put it on to a resounding view of eyes glaring at me in confusion. (audience laughs) “But the Rodarte was so
beautiful,” one said. “But the Raf Simons for Calvin Klein “was so stunning on you,” said another. “But what about the Brandon Maxwell?” “What about the Dior?” Lots of questions. (audience laughs) They were all dresses. This was an oversized men’s
suit made for a woman. Not a gown. And then I began to cry. In this suit, I felt like me today. In this suit, I felt the truth of who
I am well up in my gut. And then wondering what
I wanted to say tonight became very clear to me. As a sexual assault survivor by someone in the entertainment industry, as a woman who is still not
brave enough to say his name, as a woman who lives with chronic pain, as a woman who was conditioned
at a very young age to listen to what men told me to do, I decided today, I wanted
to take the power back. Today, I wear the pants. (audience applauds) Today, I wear the suit. In an age when I can
barely watch the news, I gasped at the unjust men
and some women, quite frankly, that I see running this country. I had a revelation that
I had to be empowered to be myself today more than ever, to resist the standards of
Hollywood, whatever that means, to resist the standards
of dressing to impress, but to use what really matters, my voice. After I was assaulted when I was 19, I changed forever. Part of me shut down for many years. I didn’t tell anyone. I avoided it myself. And felt shame even still today. Standing in front of you, I feel shame for what happened to me. I still have days where I
feel like it was my fault. After I shared what happened to me with very powerful men in this industry, nobody helped me. No one offered me guidance, or a helping hand, to lead me to a place
where I felt justice. They didn’t even point me in the direction of the mental health assistance
I was in dire need of. Those men hid because they were afraid of losing their power. And because they hid, I began to hide. I hid for a long time until I started to feel physical pain. Then I had to go to the doctor ’cause I didn’t know
what was wrong with me. And then I was diagnosed with PTSD and fibromyalgia, which many people don’t
think is even real, and I don’t even know what
the fuck to say about that. But I’ll tell you what it is. It’s a syndrome that is
essentially a cyclone of many different conditions
depending on the person, inducing a stress-induced pain. And I really wish my friend
Lena Dunham was here tonight because I think she
could probably articulate this much better than me. And I hope we can all agree
that she’s a remarkable woman. (audience applauds) Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, trauma, these are just a few
examples of the forces that can lead to this tornado of pain. So what I would like to say, in this room of powerful
women and men today, is let’s work together to beckon the world towards kindness. I’m fortunate enough now to
have the resources to help me, but for many, the resources
either don’t exist, or people don’t have the ability
to pay for or access them. I want to see mental health become a global priority. (audience applauds) We might not be able, or
we’re not able, actually, to control all of the
challenges and the tragedies that life throws our way, but we can work together. This room and even wider can work together to heal each other. And we can also try to find the strength, in the best way that we can,
to ask for help if we need it. One in four people in the world
suffer from mental illness. 300 million people suffer from depression, 60 million people live with
bipolar affective disorder, 23 million people are
stricken with schizophrenia, and 800,000 people die
every year from suicide. In low and middle income countries, between 76 and 85% of
people with mental disorders receive no treatment at all. In high-income countries, between 35 and 50% of people
are in the same situation. The people in this room, and the people that you
have in your network, have the power to turn kindness into plutonium and change the world for both children and adults, to provide for a better future and make up in whatever
small way that we can, microscopic maybe, for the pain those have
suffered in the past. And if anyone is compelled to do so, please join me and my mother Cynthia. We’re the founders of the
Born This Way Foundation to empower youth, to inspire
a kinder and braver world. We want kids to learn about mental health and the importance of
kindness at a very young age. And it is my personal dream that there would be a mental
health expert, teacher, or therapist in every
school in this nation, and hopefully, one day, around the world. Let’s lift our voices. I know we are, but let’s get louder. And not just as women, but as humans, and see that there are there
are great men in the world. And ask them to hold
our hands for justice, that our voices be heard
whatever our story may be, for an equal standing that
we will fight for justice for women and men and those
with other sexual identities, for me. This is what it means to
be a woman in Hollywood. It means I have a platform. I have a chance to make a change. I pray we listen and believe and pay closer attention
to those around us, to those in need. I’m sorry, I preach a lot, so you’re gonna have to bear with me. Be a helping hand. Be a force for change. Thank you, Nina Garcia. Thank you, Steven Gan. I was an outcast and you believed in me, and I wouldn’t be here without you. Thank you, Elle. Thank you all the loved ones in my life. Bobby, I love you. Everybody at table five. (audience laughs) My fiance Christian. All the loved ones in my life who’d take care of me every day. And Ryan Murphy, thanks for giving me
my first leading role. (audience applauds) You know that Golden
Globe belongs to you, man. Thank you to all of you, everybody in this room
who has supported me in having a voice, and knowing I have
something inside me to give that’s more important than any
stereotype about Hollywood. I have my heart to give to you, and I want you to have all of it. Thank you for inspiring me. I can’t say enough about you. Listening to you speak
tonight gave me hope when I have trouble
sleeping ’cause I’m afraid, or when I walk out in the
world and I’m trembling inside. It’s women like you, Anita,
that make me feel strong. Come on. (audience applauds) Be kind to yourselves and
be kind to each other. And to the designers that sent me all those beautiful dresses, thank you too. (audience laughs) (audience applauds) It taught me something that I
needed to learn again today. And to quote myself– (audience laughs) If there’s one thing you take away from me being here tonight, Elle, it’s breed compassion, amen fashion. (audience applauds) Thank you.

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  1. Earlier this week, we celebrated ELLE's 25th annual Women In Hollywood event, and gave credit to 11 women — including Lady Gaga — who push the conversation forward in 2018. Let us know your favorite moment from Gaga's speech, and read more about #ELLEWIH on ELLE.com: https://www.elle.com/elle-women-in-hollywood-2018/

  2. Fuck out of here bitch with that illuminati pussy ass lies bitch fuck out of here bitch what your illuminati whore ass got a CD coming out fuck out here

  3. I want to slap every person that was laughing there , like BITCH there is literally nothing funny :’(

  4. It sucks cause her speech was so strong and from her heart yet I cant help but get the photo out of my head of GaGa with Maria Baranovich at one of her Spirit cooking events and or parties which is so foul & really ruins it for me…

  5. I told my guy friends that I was sexual assaulted and told them what happened and he said “well you must be rape material “ and it broke me for so long

  6. this bitch is totally full of shit. my nigga Aaron was getting raped and she knew about it. Fuck you pig

  7. This took more bravery than doing a concert. You bear your soul with heartfelt passion. Showers of blessings and prayers for healing. Thank you for sharing your storm what a true warrior you are dear soul. Hugs

  8. other than Gaga’s magnificent speech, i think the silence of the crowd is so incredibly empowering

  9. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT thankx Miss GAGA I wish I was told that when I was molested by men when I was 3 years old then at 11 years old im now a father of three beautiful children and my sacrifice is now their protection as I can smell a evil a mile away now I can only thank GOD for forgiveness cause if I let my tragedy get me down then the rapist run my life good luck to them now.

  10. I just love her… She is amazing, beautiful, courageous woman. She has light that gives me hope in my depression and anxiety, and light to find strength to be for my son who has autism. She is remarkable, inspiring and has place in my heart for always. I wish she could read it… Love and kisses for you my Lady from Poland 🌹💖

  11. Gaga well done on Being brave and opening up on your story well done. You are my idol you are so strong and talented and that gives me hope I love you so much you’re absolutely beautiful. I cried.

  12. so many people still not aware this is a man.. stop idolising these trannies, they're lying to you. girlpower indeed

  13. All rapists and child molesters should be tortured then executed. These guys that intentionally get women drunk or wait to prey on women who get drunk should be castrated and have their hands removed. Then everyone will know who they are.

  14. I started to cry when she talked about her being sexually harassed and not having people to help her. I know exactly how it feels. People KNOW what happened is wrong but they just don't want to get involved in that, so they don't do anything. IT'S HORRIBLE!!!!! When you need the most, you have the less help… Gaga is such a strong woman, omg.. I just love her for being so strong and at the same time being so kind and having a huge warm heart. She's inspiring! What a woman!!! ❤❤❤

  15. IT HAPPEN TO ME TWO TIMES GAGA ITS NOT EASY. ONCE WHEN I WAS 6 THEN AGAIN WHEN I WAS 7. IT TOOK ME THREE YEARS TO TELL ANYONE. ITS STILLS COMEBACKS TO FEAR ME AND NOW I AM ALMOST 12 YEARS OLD. I FUCKING LOVE YOU GAGA!! 😭

  16. Brave ,Brave enough to talk about it,l can relate you hide and then the pain comes out everything body aches and so on mental illness

  17. What an inspiring woman ! Thank you Stefani for being brave and sharing your heart to us to inspire and empower! God bless this wonderful woman .❤️

  18. I am the partner of a suicide attempt man who struggles everyday with depression. He has been diagnosed as clinically depressed. He is on a daily medication which is not covered by our medical insurance. Around the time of his attempt he was in a tunnel spiraling downwards. His once successful business started to fail and he went deeper and deeper into the pit of blackness. I did not recognize his depression, as he had always been the quiet type since when I first met him.
    He lost all his clients, could not pay the bills that were mounting up, didn’t see a way out and so planned his death by suicide.
    He learned from the internet how to tie a noose, went up the mountain to find the perfect spot off a tree to escape his pain. The attempt failed as he had not calculated his weight with the noose properly so after slipping it over his neck and jumping, it unraveled leaving him unconscious and then exhausted with a very painful rope burn on his neck.
    Months later and after getting the medical help needed he has grown his business again and is doing amazingly well as a business coach. He has done a “TED TALK‘ Stanley Park, on Suicide and Depression. If any of you are suffering please google him. It’s under his name John Nieuwenburg. He is open to helping others with this illness.
    PS
    I love you Stephanie❤️💋

    Warm regards
    Jennifer Wootton 🌹

  19. She really opened out in this speech.. Mann her rawness…. The deep sunken emotions.. She really removed her poker face in this speech

  20. Amazing.. So sad that she s in pain. I feel her. She inspire me to speak about my mental health and my trauma. I m still not brave enough to face the world în the pozition of a victim. But i will be soon a surviver! Thank you for this

  21. Suffering in silence and struggling until you find answers and help is so exhausting and hurtful..😢 great speech and message!❌⭕️❌⭕️

  22. Just yesterday my trauma therapist said to me that women whom go thru trauma may not even be able to recognize the traumatic event until they are in their 40s or even 50s . So any day is a great day to take back your power from whomever or whatever stole it from you 🦄🦄🦄

  23. Wow another side to lady gaga I never saw before, she's human after all, this is the beautiful lady gaga honest and true ok thanks for speaking up for people in the same situation God bless with that 🙏

  24. JESUS CHRIST IS THE ONLY WAY… PRAY YOUR ROSARY… THE END TIME OF JUDGEMENT IS NEAR. HE IS COMING SOON. HEAVEN BECKONS YOUR SOUL…… COME HOME TO HIM IN YOUR HEART WHILE YOU CAN STILL CHOOSE BEFORE HE COMES.

  25. I wish more celebrities could be a little bit more like Lady Gaga. For sure she's more than a beautiful voice ❤️

  26. If there is one thing you take away from me being here tonight Elle, its breed compassion, Amen fashion

  27. "And after this sexy, no brand, right oversized suit, im gonna do my tributes in a half naked costume"

  28. she say serious words, and there people are laughing , this is hollywood, a full place of pedophiles

  29. Im not your avid fan BUT I SALUTE YOU in a million times honestly, because you are the only one inspiring for everyone's who have experience like your past even a people watching on this video especially me 😢🙂 I can't stop my tears fall Dawn every single words you say cause I FEEL YOU Ms. Lady GAGA a strongest woman in the world gods always guides you in a million years and I pray also God gives you in a millions happiness ..

  30. I am deeply touched and I hope she knows herself how powerful this is. The amount of awareness a celebrity like her can raise on issues like sexual assault is substantial. It must be so hard for her every time having to talk about it, but she is becoming the light for the survivors who have a hard time finding a safe community where they can be understood and find solidarity.

    HOWEVER, instead of all the focus going to Lady Gaga and how brave she is, I would also like the public to focus on the PERPETRATORS WHO CONTINUE TO HIDE. WHERE THE FUCK ARE THEY? Why do they have the right to live on their pathetic life, free of consequences, while the survivors, Lady Gaga included, are struggling to simply, LIVE ON THEIR DAILY LIFE. This is so unfair. "Just because she's a soldier, doesn't mean you have to put her through war"

  31. Can someone PLEASE EXPLAIN TO ME WHY THE F… "Humans" in the Audience keep treeting her and all her emotional words like this is a f…ing COMEDY SHOW WTF … I don´t even know if I want to like or dislike it…. makes me want to puke and cry at the same time … what is WRONG ??? Can FINALLY SOMEONE PLEASE REDEFINE the STAMP of "MENTAL HEALTH" and SICKNESS again? Just prooves how f…ed UP the "WORLD" of some PEOPLE already is who dare to call themselves "Humans" … EMPATHIE is THE CURE … but FOR THE RIGHT SIDE (PLEASE!!!) and if I could I WOULD MAKE THIS AN ORDER every HUMAN in this room should take off their shoes and socks … and take a BOW … WITHOUT a HAT or CAP on infront of THIS STAR the World can be glad for. Thank you Universe for her COURAGE to even BE HERE! OmOmOmOmOmOmOmOmOm … bow thx Gaga (the "world" of lots of people is … not you!) You are a very very BRAVE SOUL to me and I feel honored to walk on this planet with you at the same time … I feel you! I will role a cigarrete right now and smoke that one with ANGER in my heart FOR YOU … and all those you so truly feel for! I am proud of you for your focus – your heart – your mind and your TRUTH – I see you! right now I am your X-Girl ("Gaga" II) OM OM OM OM OM – V for SOUL

  32. I like her soul a lot! Gaga, you give me hope. I am a loud woman who has a soft heart and a strong mind. Not everyone understands this.

  33. Most times it's really hard for victims to open up about their experience with sexaul assault cause they sometimes deal with truma, guilt, depression ect. I'm so proud of her for making this beautiful speech🙏.

  34. those crocodile tears mean nothing you satanic poop eating trash enjoy your money and fame you sold your soul for it and have to perform disgusting acts of depravity to keep it this is what the satanic stands for baby raping flesh and blood drinking shit eating urine drinking swine .The devil has deceived you and when you die your gonna pay for eternity where you bought will burn and feel the pain for ever. CHRSTIANS KNO W ALL YOUR FILTHY TWISTED PSYCHOTIC BULLSHIT YOU ARE PEDOPHILES WHO COMMIT DEPLORABLE ACTS OF DEPRAVITY AND HAVE BEEN EXPOSED FOR THE UNIMAGINABLE CHRIMES AGAINST HUMANITY.SECRETS OUT YOU CAN NOT HIDE ANYLONGER AND YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED ENOUGH EVIL ENOUGH SACRIFICE RAPE AND TORTURE OF BABIES YOUR ADRENOCHROME IS GOING TO BE NO LONGER AVAILABLE AND YOU CAN LOOK FORWARD TO A LIFE IN PRISON WITH EPSTEIN ,EVERYONE PLEASE JOIN Q A WORLD WIDE AND FAST GROWING MOVEMENT TO PUT AN END TO SATANISM AND ALL ITS ATROCITIES AND FEDERAL CHRIMES THERE IS NO MORE ROOM FOR THIS GARBAGE .THEY HAVE BEEN COMMITTING UNSPEAKABLE CHRIMINAL ACTS THAY DESERVE TO BE EXECUTED FOR THEIR CHRIMES.

  35. fake gag me you eat poop satanic pig go get raped and eat a baby you've raped and tortured.by the way this fucking freak has a penis for sure we saw it

  36. eat some more poop satanic filth no Christian bought this pathetic pitiful attempt for sympathy you trash

  37. Shes trying to look like Kim K here with the same hair and very bad lip fillers. Then the bad acting with fake experiences and trashy ideas again. Shes just a bad actor and aaaalways making up lies for attention, I feel seriously sorry for this person. Full-blown narcissistic personality disorder. It must be a torture to be her with the constant need for attention, ready to lie and steal for it.

  38. It’s nice to hear the emotional and spiritual side of lady Gaga. They need to become aware of the healers who are bringing new sciences to rewiring ptsd and traumas and who have been ridiculed for it up until recently. I hope my book victim to victory , healing generational abuse from my bloodline, gets to her door. No publisher would look at it because I wasn’t a name. But I’ve dedicated my life to healing severe trauma and have the knowledge and wisdom to build a new mental health care system. I was sad to hear this famous woman was not able to release the chains of who violated her. I feel for her but having worked in the field that holds her soul from feeling and being free. Many blessings to her and everyone taking a stand on this subject matter. It’s in my opinion an epidemic.

  39. wake the fuck up America this gag me is a satanic poop eating pedophile the entire music industry is open your eyes

  40. I wonder if she's tried trigger point therapy to release the tention? I had a patient once that d.t.m. seemed to help. Magnesium is also relaxing. Not giving medical advice thoigh. Wouldn't want black Kevlar HEROES kicking my door in yelling FREEZE! and gunning me and my sleeping dog down with military grade weapons for the crime of trying to help others. How brave it must make them feel..

  41. Strong,independent,but fragile,& once broken…..now speaking from the heart & her great intellect,FIGTING FOR US WOMEN! Lady Gaga is,just that A TRULY BEAUTIFUL LADY SOUL. Doing this is TOUGH, I know……I've walked in her shoes. Sadly,though,I'm not a Hollywood actress,but every word she speaks is the truth.
    As I listen to her,my eyes are full of tears,as I hurt in the spot she did.
    It's absolutely lethal,I've PTSD too.I see in her,what others have seen in me….it's incredibly both moving/ depressing
    The ppl that laughed were extremely disrespectful of Lady Gaga!
    This was a important speech! If you don't dig it,get the fuck out!!!
    Thank you MY GODESS FROM A FELLOW SUFFER
    You spoke the words I was threatened severely to ever utter.
    ✌🏻⭐️⭐️⭐️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😇😇😇😇😇😇🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼I pray to Buddha )

  42. I have be throw sexual abuse through must of my life since I was 8. I laugh cause I get nervous!! It's not at the person in any way!! And I'm in my 40tys I am glad that women in today's world talk about this and help each other though this!!😚 Thank U

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