Parenting Style Authoritarian Parenting | Parents

Parenting Style Authoritarian Parenting | Parents


I’m Dr. Ari Brown, and I’m going to explain
what it means to be an authoritarian parent. In the 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrind
studied preschoolers and their families, and identified different parenting styles characterized
by parents’ expectations and responsiveness to their children. Authoritarian parents placed
high demands on their children, and believe that parents should have the power in the
household. Authoritarian parents tend to use negative forms of discipline. They will take
away privileges for poor behavior or resort to physical forms of punishment like spanking.
Authoritarian parents often have one-way communications. They are not terribly responsive to a child’s
feelings or opinions. If a child questions the parent’s rules or approach, a parent might
respond, “Because I said so.” Authoritarian parents have firm rules ad expect those rules to be this
way tend to rebel later in life. As a pediatrician,
I can tell you that I do not encourage this type of parenting style, nor do I recommend
spanking. You are your child’s role model, and you want to teach her to use her words,
not her hands or her fists when she is frustrated. It is much more effective to teach your child
about the logical or natural consequence for inappropriate behavior than to spank her.
While it is certainly reasonable to expect your child to behave properly, you also wanna
give your child a solid foundation that fosters her independence.

32 comments

  1. Does she hear her self I care about my son feeling but what about the bad ads kids my mom said because I said so and Spain worked to I still list in to my mom and I stay always from the law all I can

  2. my dad was a total Authoritarian father.. but when i tell him this, he blames me for everything, never accepts anything.. he gives me examples of his friends whose parents were far more strict and harsh.. am i to soley blame for all the problems i have in my life?? im confused!!

  3. So many seem to throw the baby out with the bath water these days! There's nothing wrong with ruling the home as adults are in charge. Because you are. You should be at least because you need to be able to manipulate certain behaviors in your children and influence their decisions, like training wheels where eventually they'll be soaring on their own. Whether you spank (there's an appropriate age range here), remove them from the situation to sit and think alone with no toys, or garnish privileges, that is great and highly recommended as you're teaching immediate consequences for actions. However, once you dish this out, you HAVE to talk about the incident.

    Participatory lectures are highly underrated. Have a discussion back and forth about it. Share your experiences of being a craphead child once too, then discuss how this behavior can effect them now and later in life. Get them to see reason, logic, empathy etc. And if the child is still defensive, don't engage in the talk until you can break the defense system, or until they have disarmed themselves.

    There is no 1 perfect title for parenting styles. Near perfect lies somewhere in the midst of ALL of them.

  4. You're probably not going to understand why this is a bad style unless you are parented that way.

    It really does kill a lot of childhood and ends up making it a struggle for them social and mental wise.

    But they could also be rebellious when older to get back at you or completely cut you out so that they can breathe and mentally improve away from you

  5. I'm more of Totalitarian parent, But I'm more intelligent about it. See I watch there Every move, there isn't a thing that they do that I don't know about…Yes, I spy on them. I've track there phone, I know what they watch on the computer, I know where they are when they're at there "Friends house", I go through there stuff while there at school. There is NO Freedom in my household, there is only the illusion of Freedom. This is how I govern my Home and My Family. Knowledge is power.

  6. I was grounded and spanked growing up. As an adult, I have respect for authority and elders (I believe this to be paramount)! I married a wonderful, respectful, and kind-hearted woman. I went on to get a college diploma. I owe it all to authoritarian parenting. While love is important, discipline, obedience, and respect is what I will be teaching my children the most. This will produce diligent students, respectful adults, and wonderful life partners. I've been told that authoritarian parenting causes depression. I am proof that this is an outright lie!!! Those who don't raise their kids this way will find them in situations like that "Cash Me" girl from Dr. Phil. Authoritarianism is love.

  7. I grew up like this and I can tell you I had the worst self esteem, I now have anxiety disorder and depression, I can't hold down a job and am always in desperate need of reassurance. If you are a parent, PLEASE DON'T BE LIKE THIS.

  8. You see a lot of a style called Non Parenting. The parent becomes the child's friend and play buddy.  Teach self discipline and moral compass.

  9. The worst part about this style of parenting is that the kids don't learn to be decent for the sake of being decent, they learn to be decent only when they are afraid of being punished if they are not.

  10. I've always known that my parents are authoritarians.

    They suffocate me.

    I hate them so much.

    They never listen to what I have to say.

    They always shut me down without trying to understanding me.

    I'm always blamed for almost everything.

    I'm never good enough for my parents.

    All our so-called "discussions" together always turn into arguments.

    They're often unreasonable, selfish, shallow-minded, conservative, politically correct, stubborn and social conforming.

    It sickens me to the very core.

    Because of them, it makes me feel as if it'd be better if I just commit suicide.

    It hurts so much to just be me.

    They never love me for who I am.

    They always compare me with other people.

    They are judgemental and foolish.

    I wish to cut my ties with them permanently once I'm financially and academically independent, so they won't have a chance to make me miserable about my existence and presence again because I've had enough.

  11. This is the way my parents raised me. As a result, I am afraid of them and more rebellious to them as a result. I hate them so much due to the way they raised me.

  12. My friends parents where like this and he's in jail for going on a killing spree. Yea… Not the best way to create a functional adult.

  13. oh no im 40 and dont know what the kid wants hmmm youtube search leads to this ahh perfect thanks you tube kid: yeah…[email protected]#$ you youtube…40 year old guy: wait i cant spank him uhhh jimmy! time out for 6 hours no half times yeah that will show him

  14. I was raised like this, and now have anxiety, and depression. I stayed out of trouble, but have no self esteem, and couldn't drive for a year because of fear and anxiety, cried before going to work because of social anxiety, and struggled with trust in relationships. Gotta be a better way.

  15. I can’t wait to get out of my house and live far away from my mom. She literally suffocates me and I just want to cut her out of my life. Everytime I tell her she’s controlling, she yells at me and tells me how dare i said those words. Ugh, if i earn more money next year im completely gonna move out, away from her

  16. I'm trying to find information on how not to act in response to authoritarian parents. I've had an authoritarian mother and this is so hard.. You can't do anything but rebel against that. When you feel denied and unheard and screamed at and shamed, you can't do anything but rebel. Don't be that parent please. Consider your child's feeling. I've come a long way

  17. kids are born a clean slate that are formed into having their personalities. Some kids sadly are born with a mental illness or genetic difference that make them more susceptible to disability If the parent doesn’t know how to take care of their specific need. A parent can create a kids mental illness anxiety/ depression and make it become worse in all aspects of life. Everyone should take a psychology and a parenting class before raising a kid. It’s a job like any other that requires reputable education. Going to your neighbour next door isn’t gonna do it

  18. Authoritarian parents have negative effects. Despite being disciplined, authoritarian parents have also the chance to give negative effects to their children.

    -depression : obvious reason
    -low self esteem : fears to do anything because he thinks he will fail
    -power means anything : authoritarian parents give their children this feeling
    -anger : some children of authoritarian parents have anger issues, which they blame to their parents
    -hatred : authoritarian parent's children can hate their own parents
    -liars : authoritarian parent's children can practice to lie, to avoid punishment.

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