Using Positive Reinforcement | Parents

Using Positive Reinforcement | Parents

Positive reinforcements means, things that
we do after behavior, to make it more likely that that behavior will occur again. Very
good! Put it over here! They include things like smiling at our kids, or giving them our
full attention, or giving them a hug. They can also include things like stickers, or
points, or a special prize, after they’ve done something nice. It’s easy to notice when
our children are mis-behaving. But we need to make a conscious effort to notice when
our children are doing it right. This is what teaches them the right way to behave. Let’s
say you want your child to do a better job picking up. Well, there’s two possible approaches.
You can yell at them for leaving such a mess all the time, but that’s not gonna inspire
your child to start picking up. If you notice when they pick up a little bit, you say, oh,
thank you so much, that’s really helpful. That’s gonna inspire your child to do even
more picking up. The best kinds of praise for children are the ones. That tap into the
core components of self esteem. Yeah. Good job. Nice work. So, we might say to a child
you worked really hard on this, or you did it. We can also talk about, there impact on
other people. We can say I really enjoyed hearing your sing, or that was a very kind
thing you did for Sam. A lot of parents wonder about using a good behaviour chart. These
can be useful for getting over a hump kind of behaviors. Now we want to be careful not
to over use a good behavior charts. Because they can set up a really unattractive pattern,
where our children ask, so, what do I get if I do that? In general, I prefer natural
kinds of positive reinforcement a smile, a hug, an extra attention, or even some extra
privilege that they’ve earned.


  1. Thank you for this video. I am struggling with finding ways to use positive reinforcement that doesn't use a tangible reward (because then it is expected all the time, as you mentioned in your video), so these tips were very good. Thank you!

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