What Painful Sex Feels Like | Body Language

What Painful Sex Feels Like | Body Language


What it’s like for other people,
I would imagine… It’s intense, and looking into each
other’s eyes… ..ripping each other’s clothes off. Kissing, but, you know, like,
deep kissing. Like that’s the last kiss you’re
ever going to have in your life. And it’s passion. Yeah. My husband is amazing. And he is gentle and he’s loving, but for me, in my body, it’s like assembling a Meccano. What should be the most amazing
feeling, a lot of the time isn’t. When it hurts, it’s like glass
shattering inside you. Embedding itself. Sharp. The more you try to get it out,
the more it hurts. And then it’s not just the sex in
itself that’s painful, but it’s the after-pain. The cramping. And they can last up to two days. Sometimes it’s twisted, like someone
is wringing out a dish cloth. And it’s miserable. It’s so miserable. I think it was probably just before
we got married that the painful sex began. There was one particular time where
we’d finished and I had tears in my eyes, and they were just trickling down
my cheek, and my husband said, “What’s wrong? Did I hurt you?” And I’m like “No, it’s not you.” But he felt so guilty, and he just
said to me, “Why didn’t you stop me?” “Why didn’t you say, I cannot
do this?” And I was like, “But that’s not
what you do.” “You just get on with it.” And he was like, “You don’t ever
have to just get on with it.” “How do you think I feel knowing
that I’ve hurt you?” “That kills me.” Feeling like I’m not doing what
I should be doing, and not being the way that I
should be, as a wife and as a lover… That’s really hard to deal with. No.
SHE LAUGHS They didn’t believe me.
It was in my head, apparently. My GP said to me, “It’s fine.” “There’s nothing wrong with you.” And I said,
“But I know something is wrong.” And he was like,
“The scan showed nothing.” “There’s nothing wrong with you.” And I just felt absolutely crushed, like I was a bottle that had just
been screwed up. And that’s when I was like, “Maybe
it is in my head.” “Maybe I am going a bit crazy.” And my husband,
he was just like, “What’s wrong?” And so I told him that apparently
there was nothing wrong with me, and that the scan had come back
completely fine. And he was like,
“Well, that’s a load of shit.” When the doctor was like, “OK,
so what are your symptoms?” “Oh, painful periods, they’re
really heavy, they’re prolonged. “I’m fatigued, I feel sick.” And my husband was squeezing
my hand, and he was like, “And…? “Go on.” And I was like, “Oh, and sex is
really painful, as well.” The doctor was like, “OK, right.” “Pop a few ibuprofen and get on
with it.” Just, “You need to be a bit more
relaxed.” That’s really hard when you feel
like you’re being stabbed up the
vagina. SHE LAUGHS The painkillers and the medication
they gave me didn’t work. They did absolutely nothing. And he was still very reluctant to
do a laparoscopy to check. He was just about to finish
the appointment and I turned around and said, “You know, I’ve been having
unprotected sex for 18 months, “and I haven’t fallen pregnant.” And he kind of sat up in his chair,
and he went, “Well… “It can’t hurt to do a laparoscopy.” “We’ll just have a little look
and we’ll see what’s going on.” So, I had the operation in 2013 and I was diagnosed with severe
endometriosis. To not be believed by a doctor, feeling invisible even though you’re
there in the room with them, I found myself just detaching from
my body. And sometimes, you feel like,
“What’s even the point “of telling you how I feel,
if you’re not going to believe me?” I wish someone had told me when I
was younger to believe in myself more. And to know that I know my body… ..more than anybody else does.

100 comments

  1. There's too many stupid doctors out there who don't know what they are doing and always disregarding the patient's pain. My fiancee have had asthma since childhood, and the other day he was just having troubles breathing when I took him to the nearest clinic to check. And the doctor had the freaking nerves to tell him that he was probably having pneumonia! What the actual bullshit! I hope doctors could be more careful and responsible with their work and diagnose their patients properly.

  2. I am a guy and when ever I do it I get muscle cramps and the pain escalate from my rectum to my back and thats probably one of the worst and worrying pain I ever felt
    …it continues for an hour or so and then the heavyness in that area and pelvic continue for a day
    I have checked in numerous places and can't find a solution

  3. This pisses me the fuck off. Doctors especially male doctors need to listen and not just dismiss a woman. The bias in the medical community towards woman is fucking disgusting and it’s not deserved. Woman listen to your bodies and find a doctor who will do the same.

  4. As a doctor myself this story sounds like a lie made up for some kind of scripted narrative. Believe me this is an EASY diagnosis to make, no doctor is missing it

  5. When she described this pain, I literally went "oh my god, this is me. I feel the exact same way." I've been going to the doctor for years and they just keep changing my birth control or tell me to take pain killers. My friends even thought I was a-sexual after I started avoiding sex.

  6. lol she didn't say it was unprotected sex FOR THAT LONG? should've been the first thing out of her mouth when her husband squeezed her hand! poor gal

  7. My doctor thinks i have endo and I’m 16 and completely scared and miserable about sex and pregnancy.

  8. It's scary how a girl with feel unconftorble in pain during sex and ask for it to stop and they keep going because they are not happy that she just wants to end it in the middle

  9. i know anyone reading this may not like what i'm about to say, but i personally think a part of the doctor not believing her is the fact that he's a man. men have this constant state of mind that they're always right, and even that they may know more than a woman does. nothing against male gynecologists but i think male gynecologists need to realize a women's body is not something you can simply understand by a textbook/or even just off one experience. as a woman i can definitely preach on that. and i feel as though many female gynecologist may also be able to agree on that. now i in no way intend to bash any male gynecologist because every doctor is different, but the point i'm trying to make is obviously every women is different and besides that, the number one important thing to know as a medical professional is you can never know your patient's body the way your patient knows their body.

  10. I'm 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We have not had sex. Of course, we have tried, but I am just too scared. Once he puts on the condom and starts to press it against my hymen, I twitch because just the thought of that ripping terrifies me. It went in once and I damn near screamed because all I felt was hard on pressure, that HUUUUURTED. It did not burn, itch or anything. LOL I do not have vaginitis or endo or anything. I am just the type to have fear in my head and stick with it. Which is not good at all, and which is why we have not actually had sex yet. I want to get out of the fear, I am even too scared to finger myself, and let him finger me like that is how scared I am. WHAT DO YOU GUYS SUGGEST. I LOVE HIM BUT DO I REALLY HAVE TO KEEP HIM WAITING ANOTHER 2 WHOLE YEARS?

  11. I'd fire that doctor and I have. If your doctor isn't listening fire he or she. I'm 44 now, and I was diagnosed with Endometriosis Stage 4 at age 14. I had a partial hysterectomy at age 18 and the pathology report showed that I had Adenomyosis. I also have Interstitial cystitis, Multiple sclerosis, syringomyelia, Spinal stenosis. I have gone through hell and back several times throughout my life, but I didn't quit. I'm lucky I have found a pain management doctor who believes me. Yes, I take opioids for pain and there's a major difference between dependence and addiction. If I didn't have my pain meds I wouldn't be able to eat, get out of bed, walk, etc. The pain meds don't get rid of all my pain from these diseases and realistically they won't, but I can function.

  12. You have just describe my life before being diagnosed with Endometriosis – same ignorant doctors same painful life

  13. I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. The average person with this searches for 10 years before their diagnosis is found. 10 years of hearing over a dozen doctors say "Hmmm, yeah that's weird. But all your tests show there's nothing wrong with you." You wouldn't be there if there wasn't something wrong. But hearing that over and over is so destructive.

  14. It took me 6 years to get a diagnosis for vulvodynia(nerve pain in vulva), most of the time you are the ONLY advocate for your health

  15. I'll be 16 soon. And no matter how many times I do it…sometimes I just felt pain. A couple of times it was so bad that my whole body felt the pain. Cant really explain but …it was a moment where he just striked in and that was the border for me. Less then a second,my whole body reacted and I started crying it was just too bad. I really dont cry usualy when something hurts. But this wasnt even for me to decide. bam! I felt pain and Bam! I feel tears down my face. Now its getting better ..and my boyfriend is careful,my ex wasnt maby thats why it hurt. I am not sure if I do not have this issue like this girl,she is so brave omg. Because that pain …uhuh. But for y'all that feel pain from time to time,maby not common but it happens-sometimes it depends on partner and the place and sytuation. You have to trust the person ur doing it with. You have to be relaxed mentaly so your body can relax also and can be fully prepared and happy to do it 😉 ❤

  16. I can relate, I have a problem with painful sex too and I don't understand how she withstood the intense pain. I cant do that nor would I want too. I haven't talked about it with a doctor yet.

  17. It can hurt, I have tried that a lot of times. And theres a lot of reasons why. But No one should feel that much pain, I hope she and her husband has found something that can help her.

  18. Why is everybody saying they are scared.. maybe wait till the end of the video. Sex doesnt hurt if you dont have medical problems.

  19. well that doctor is stupid and rude, those are clear signs and symptoms of endometriosis, i know cuz am in the medical field.

  20. I know exactly how she feels because I have endometriosis & lord!!!! 😪
    Bless you ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  21. Very important to be persistent if you suspect something. I had to pester my Dr for a scan. I would end up in a & e on Morphine everytime I had a period. Scans revealed a cyst the size of a large potato. It was removed surgically and I also had a laparoscopy to remove lesions. One of the most painful things I've experienced. Sadly most women are sent back home by doctors with stronger pain killers for period pain. There definitely needs to be more awareness on this condition.

  22. Losing your virginity isn’t scary , I mean ofc you will be nervous but it’s all good , your body is MEANT to have sex , you just have to do it when you are ready , once you do it the first time you just have to feel how your body reacts I mean even I lost my virginity and let me tell you that was scary but you know what , I did it with someone I love and I had no regrets 🙌🙌

  23. Guys this woman’s story isn’t common for when you loose you virginity. You don’t have to be scared virgins 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

  24. There are a number of reasons why sexual intercourse can be painful for a woman, endometriosis is a common one, but that can be controlled with medication. Sometimes a prolapsed uterus or other uterine or vaginal problems can be a cause; if it is a problem, SEE YOUR DOCTOR! There are usually reasons, possibly mental as well as physical can happen, and most can be corrected!

  25. I have this. I thought there was something wrong with me. I really did. I was like "this has to feel good!! Just pretend that it feels good!" but I started crying almost every time I had sex. The afterpain was like having a really really painfuk period cramp. And it would hold on for HOURS. But my boyfriend is so caring and he's so careful and absolutely okay with it

  26. My little sister has severe endometriosis and it kills me to see how much pain she is going through the doctors keep changing her meds to see what works best for her and nothing is working

  27. Really amazing that you shared this. It is so incredibly hard to be open about not being able to have sex the way society thinks is ‘normal’ sex. And yeah the husband seems nice but why are all the comments about him…? This woman has gone through so much shit and she just amazingly shared her story to hundreds of thousands of people. Thank you 💜💜💜

  28. Idk why ppl so scared now, it only hurt for this women cause she had a problem. Doesn't mean its gonna hurt u

  29. This woman's story is what SOCIALIS/GOVERNMENT HEALTHCARE is! Here in the America, you see the doctor of your choice and describe your symptoms, soon after, you are taken care of in whatever manor necessary.
    No Govt. healthcare for us Americans!! MAGA!! Trump 2020!! ;0)

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