What’s Your Parenting Style | Parents

What’s Your Parenting Style | Parents


I’m Dr. Ari Brown, and I’m talking about style
today. Now, it’s not New York Fashion Week. I’m talking about you and your partner selecting
a parenting style. You have the skills and instincts to be a great parent, and you should
trust yourself, but your parenting style is the foundation for how you approach certain
decisions like where your child sleeps and how you tackle discipline issues. The style
is different in parent’s responsiveness and expectations of their kids. Authoritative
or positive parenting is like having a democracy. Positive parents set up the rules and expect
their children to follow them. These rules and limits guide children in behaving properly
both in and outside the home. This could be expecting a child to say please and thank
you to others or to pitch in and clean up his toys. But in addition to setting up clear
expectations, positive parents are willing to listen to their children’s feelings and
concerns and problem solve together. Authoritarian parenting is more like a dictatorship. Authoritarian
parents also have high expectations for their child’s behavior, but they do not wanna hear
the child’s opinion of the rules. Mom and dad know best and they are in-charge of the
house. There’s no negotiation in this parent-child relationship. Permissive parenting is similar
to anarchy. Permissive parents are responsive to their children, but they lack setting limits
or expectations. Parents play the role of a friend rather than a leader or adviser.
Government analogies aside, attachment parents are highly responsive to children both day
and night. The priority is to create a secure parent-child bond or attachment, which helps
the child gain trust and confidence. Attachment parents set limits but try to do so in a nurturing
way. They believe in non-physical discipline. You and your partner should decide what works
for your family and don’t worry with what your friends, in-laws, or random bloggers
think. Have a plan that you’re both happy about regardless of whether it’s an actual
parenting style. Be flexible and be sure to take a step back every now and then when it
comes to your family life and your relationship with your kids.

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